So You Think Ya Know Everything.

Dear Diary,and people who dare read my blog.I have worked as a mental health professional,and I am used to people listening to what I have to say.I since have been away from that enviorment.I have experienced something quite different.I didn't recognize what I was experiencing for awhile.I did know there was something bothering me ,and I began notice ,I didn't get to give any input in that conversation.I was left with all this in my head.Then it hit me ,time after time ,I had not been allowed to complete my thought,before I was interrupted.Sometimes the person I was talking with,would then respond to what I had said,and become defensive,other times the person would (I suppose)think that was the end of what I had to say.Then in other conversations,the person would tell me, he/she knew what I was going to say.Don't get me wrong, I am guilty of the same behavior.however, I would like to think ,it was mostly in the past.I say that because I have learned this is a self-defeating behavior.When I hear myself thinking ,I know what you are going to say,I remind myself that I do not know what is in someones mind.I want the person to complete what they have to say.It makes for good conversation.I learn something new all the time,and for myself,it is very interesting to know about different thinking than my own.These days I have begun to say ,you didn't let me finish what I had to say,or ok, what am I going to say?The point is when you think you already know what someone will say ,or saying you know what's going to happen in certain situations,YOU DON"T KNOW.Of course there is a manner in which to find out.That is if you care to.And last but most importantly,it hurts relationships,stifles imagination,it limits one's life,it's fear based ,if you already know,you can stay in your safe place.On the other hand you could learn about problem solving,how to let yourself live in the present,because thats the thing about life,you only have this moment.(for sure).